Prioritizing Your Sanity

StressWith Thanksgiving just around the corner, we are headed into the winter holidays which, although wonderful, tend to contribute their own brand of overwhelm. Aside from the disruption to our normal schedule, the extra cooking and cleaning, the added expense, and the strain of either traveling to see relatives or having them as house guests, there are often a lot of unpleasant family dynamics that go on.

So how do we deal with this seasonal overwhelm?

Feelings of overwhelm usually have three major sources: deadlines, misguided martyrdom, and competency issues. [Read more…]

The Good Child Handicap

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A few years ago, I attended a business seminar where they made us play a game called “Lifeboat.” In the game, I was in a group of 5 on a sinking ship with no hope of being rescued and the lifeboat only held two people. The group had to decide who would go in the lifeboat and who would stay on the sinking ship. It was a very intense game, because you were supposed to play it as if you actually were in a real life or death situation. And everybody did.

What the game boiled down to was each player had three minutes to convince the others in the group why he or she deserved to be in the lifeboat instead of left on the sinking ship. After everyone had finished his or her three minutes of “persuasion” (justification of why they should continue to exist) the group voted on who would be saved. (You couldn’t vote for yourself.) The two people with the most votes lived. Every one else drowned.

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Needle Movers

pressure-guageI attended a webinar the other day about “needle movers” in different areas of life. For example, the three most important factors that “move the needle” towards better health are 1) sleep, 2) exercise, and 3) nutrition.

As I listened, I began to wonder if there are three factors that make the most impact on our home schooling as far as making it most effective and successful with the least amount of stress and strain on us or on our children. (Yes, I’ve seen just about as many burned out homeschool kids as I have seen burned out homeschool moms.) [Read more…]

High Five Friday: Creating Good Habits

minihabitsbookWhat I’m reading: Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results by Stephen Guise

Why I’m reading it:

One thing (among others) that home schooling your children uncovers about you is your own bad habits. In my case, my bad habits like procrastination, disorganization, staying up too late, failing to exercise, poor time management, eating junk food, and putting up with clutter became very, very apparent as I took on the task of educating three ADHD (poster) boys at home.

My method for dealing with my bad habits was usually along the lines of some herculean feat of willpower that brought temporary order to the chaos but only lasted several weeks before my willpower and motivation ran out. This cycle of trying to change and failing did nothing but make me feel like a failure, put me in a state of perpetual overwhelm, and cause me to become a super grouch. [Read more…]